Moving in together is a significant step in a relationship. It isn’t necessarily easy and, in some ways, can be incredibly challenging. A happy household can turn into an emotional disaster if both parties aren’t on the same page. Merging two lifestyles into one space presents new challenges to the relationship. If there’s anyone that knows anything about moving, it’s Safebound Moving & Storage, and they’ve put together some valuable tips for newlyweds moving in together.
Communicate Freely and Frequently
This is one of the golden rules for maintaining a healthy relationship. Open, honest, and healthy communication is the bread and butter of most happy relationships. But it becomes even more vital when you’re living together.
Don’t keep secrets from your partner about the living space. If you don’t like something, speak up. The longer you pretend to like the furniture your spouse picked out when you secretly hate it, the more resentful you’ll get. The longer you keep your mouth shut about what you do and don’t like, the more animosity you’ll build toward your partner. If you two can’t freely speak when picking out a coffee table, then how do you expect to make bigger decisions in the future?
The art of compromise is another cheat code to a happy and healthy relationship. Sometimes your preference for color or style will have to come second to your partner. And sometimes, your preferences will come first. The key is finding a healthy balance of give and take. If your partner loves a countertop style that you aren’t a fan of, perhaps you can insist on the sectional that your partner doesn’t love but can live with.
Compromise can only be reached when our first point is utilized. The communication between you and your partner has to be impeccable to reach compromises. That’s the art of the deal that can make or break a healthy relationship. You win some, and you lose some, which is good if your ultimate goal is a happy marriage.
Consolidate and Toss
You don’t need two of everything! It’s a little ridiculous to have two coffee makers and two sets of towels. You and your partner should come together with an inventory of everything you both have. If there are cases when you each have one of the same things, decide which one you both want to keep.
The more stuff you have, the more clutter you have. It’s worth embracing a minimal lifestyle for a while until you are both settled in the new home. Once you’ve decided what’s staying and what’s going, plan to get rid of the unwanted stuff. You can have a yard sale, put the items on Craigslist or Facebook Marketplace, or call a commercial moving company to get rid of the junk boxes. However, we recommend donating them to your local Goodwill or community outreach center.
This brings us back again to our very first point. You and your partner will have to talk about money if you two are moving in together. There’s no way around these conversations. If you’re living together and married, then you need to be on the same page when it comes to spending, saving, and financing. How will you cover the monthly mortgage or rent? Are you keeping bank accounts separate? Do you two want a child? If so, when do you start saving for that child?
These are all important questions to ask, and we could add to the list endlessly. What’s important, though, is that there are open and honest lines of communication. Money is a necessity in this world, maybe not for happiness but certainly for comfort. And these honest conversations about financial goals and limits need to happen.
Take it Easy
At the end of the day, you’re embarking on a lifelong journey with someone you love. While there is a level of seriousness about it all, remember why you decided to get married in the first place. Enjoy each other’s company. Laugh at the mishaps and make the best of challenging situations. As long as the conversation remains open, honest, and healthy, then you two are sure to enjoy a lifetime of happiness.